- Emily's riding a two-wheeler...fast and furiously!
- Nate got a haircut and looks like a big boy
- no lookers at our house yet...keeping it straight for any potential looker is definitely a challenge
- got a hankering to go to Tennessee, homesickness creeps in occasionally...gotta make a plan, especially with these gas prices, it will wipe out the savings!
- barn wrens are back...those birds are trying to build another nest on the front porch "rock". The babies had flown the nest, so I knocked it down and cleaned up the mess...thinking they were done. Who knew?
- All of next school year's Homeschool curriculum should begin arriving any day now, I'm so excited! We'll start latin!
- Joe's been on a business trip to the Damascus, VA facility
- Kayla's getting promoted from the eighth grade to HIGH SCHOOL
- all kinds of stuff going on this weekend
- Sunday will be our friends, the Holland's, last time attending church as North Carolina residents...
- Keep being drawn back to Albemarle in our search for a "new" home
- I think the kids are finally done throwing up after three weeks of whatever this GI bug was they had
- Joe was having dinner at the Firehouse Barbecue Restaurant in Johnson City Tennessee http://www.thefirehouse.com/ w/Buddy, Beth & Sam tonight...I'm jealous and really thinking I need a trip home for some good ole' East Tennessee hickory smoked BBQ...did I say that already?
- goodnight for now...from a toddler, a 7-year old and one tired lady in a queen sized bed...sleeping all together is sweet sometimes.
Thursday, May 29, 2008
Wednesday, May 21, 2008
Emily asked "what's the singer mean when he says, I'm one mistake away from you leaving me this way?" So, in the minivan, driving 55 miles--make that 35, (oops, we were in the speed trap in Whispering Pines) miles per hour...I shared with her why some days we just feel the weight of our sins no matter if they are forgiven or not, the weight of God's disappointment with us, days when it's so hard to believe He doesn't see our sins anymore when we can remember so vividly...the thought that one more sin will be the straw that breaks the camels back and He will want no more to do with us...even when all this thinking is not what the Bible tells us. We talked a little about how I'm disappointed when she disobeys...I asked her if sometimes when I'm really angry with her for disobeying if she ever wonders just for a minute if I really love her...she understood...and nodded. I asked her if she understands that sometimes when we disobey God, we have a hard time talking to Him. So, we let things build up...and we start to avoid Him, cause we know he's going to remind us of our sin. She piped up and said, "yeah, cause we're scared of getting punishment..." I said, "Yeah, cause we're scared of getting punished" As I often do, I continued to expound until her eyes glazed over and her tongue was flaccid....Theology 101 lesson checked off for the day.
When we got home someone was arriving from the moving company to do a survey of all our worldly possessions to see how many days it would take them to pack us up and move us away. Sad.
Nate napped and we did more school work...only two more weeks and this, the first year of the Arnold's homeschooling is officially complete.
I then spent hours on the computer figuring out curriculum for next year...well, at least considering curriculum for next year. I think I'm going with Sonlight...99.9% sure.
Now, I have a sleeping girl in bed with me...all warm and toasty with Pappaw's teddy bear tucked under her body where she rolled on him in her sleep. Her wild hair stuck to her pink rosy cheeks...she's sleeping with her new lady-bug-old-fashioned-non-digital-watch on, so proud that she can tell time all the way to the minute hand these days. She's so peaceful, so angelic...
Better sleep, the other one will be climbing in soon...saying "nunnie you" (snuggle you)...
Monday, May 19, 2008
If these old walls,
If these old walls could speak
Of the things that they remember well,
Stories and faces dearly held,
A couple in love Livin' week to week,
Rooms full of laughter.
If these walls could speak.
If these old halls,
If hallowed halls could talk,
These would have a tale to tell
Of sun going' down and dinner bell,
And children playing at hide and seek
from floor to rafter,
If these halls could speak.
They would tell you that I'm sorry
For being' cold and blind and weak.
They would tell you that it's only
That I have a stubborn streak,
If these walls could speak.
If these old fashioned window panes were eyes,
I guess they would have seen it all--
Each little tear and sigh and footfall,
And every dream that we came to seek
Or followed after,
If these walls could speak.
They would tell you that I owe you
More than I could ever pay.
Here's someone who really loves you;
Don't ever go away.
That's what these walls would say.
Thursday, May 8, 2008
Thank you for being thoughtful on the subject! I think in particular, his age/developmental stage is difficult...he's going to pick up whatever's available. We are already teaching him to say "no peanut for Nate, no egg for Nate"...and teaching not to ever touch food or other's sippy cups or anything on anyone else's plate but you know it'll be a while before he really gets it.
Theoretically if he drank from a cup/touched a plate that has an allergen anywhere on it, he could have a reaction from cross contamination. If someone is serving a mixture of something "safe" with something that's not...I don't allow him to have anything because I don't know for sure if they touched the peanut butter crackers before they touched the goldfish....again, cross contamination could have occurred. The knife used to make a PB&J sandwich for anyone at our house always gets dipped in the jelly first....ALWAYS or the jelly gets contaminated and has to be thrown out.
The two most common attitudes I see in regards to his allergies are folks who are afraid to feed him anything...and folks who think that anything is okay as long as it's not an actual peanut or an egg. I fell into the same category before being educated. It was hard and overwhelming at first, but AFTER lots of label reading, we've found things that work for him...I've got it down to a science including even the particular brand names he can have. Rold Gold pretzels are great (for now) but not Snyder's and definitely not generic.
With the increasing number of kids with allergies...it's hard for groups where kids gather to come up with a solution. Even schools are battling what to do...peanut butter free areas in the cafeteria vs. peanut butter free period. On allergy websites with forums there are just as many moms w/kids with multiple allergies deciding to homeschool for safety as there are moms who are angry that they can no longer pack a cheap but good source of protein PB&J sandwich for their own (sometimes picky-won't-eat-anything-else-if-they-are-starving) kids' lunch box.
Sometimes I feel like the food police! When a mom got out a snack for another child yesterday morning...it was a hodge podge of stuff that I immediately knew was a potential problem....it's a hard battle..."you can't feed your child cause it might kill mine..." and I had planned to bring a snack that was safe for Nate, and left home without it. He did have a serving of Cheetos in his bag...I told him and more importantly had told Emily. But, the key is not just bringing a snack for him, but bringing enough for everyone so that he's not got the potential of grabbing someone else's food. Unfortunately...I haven't found a "animal cracker/cookie" yet that is safe. He can never eat anything from a bakery.
So to address your ultimate question, here are some safe things for a kid with a peanut/egg allergy to suggest for next year and it's imperitive to remember that brand names are very important!
Peppridge Farm Goldfish are safe (unless you've got a child with milk allergy...Nate's is mild enough he can tolerate these)
Cheese-itz (milk would be an issue)
Keebler Graham Crackers and their new "bees" are safe (wheat allergy would be only problem)
Teddy Grahams in all their shapes/sizes (they've done some superhero shapes etc) are safe (again wheat allergy...)
Malt-o-meal Tootie Fruitie cereal or Fruit Loops or Apple Cinnamon O's
Juice/Fruit/cheese is never a problem for a kid with a peanut or egg allergy...so I tell everyone who cares for Nate, when in doubt go with natural foods vs. processed. Just not very practical as it's hard to serve these things in a group setting and storing them for later wouldn't be possible.
Another thought to consider: might be prudent to only allow moms w/kids w/multiple allergies (wheat, soy, milk, peanuts, tree nuts, eggs...the biggies) to pack their own snacks...anything they bring would be safe for anyone.
Soo...the good news is...God is protecting him. When I first found out about his allergies, a friend from our church with an older son who experiences almost the identical allergies called me and let me know she was an available resource to me. What a blessing, an encouragement that she had kept him alive to the ripe age of 11...there was hope for me! My first question was "How do you do it? How do you keep him safe?" Her answer, which is burned in my brain, "I pray every single day for God's protection".
That's the ultimate message for me, I can't keep him safe 100% of the time, I cannot control his environment or the things in it 100% of the time. God's plan for him doesn't include a bubble or coccoon, much to my dismay. As much as I love my children and want only the best for them, I cannot keep them away from all people with harmful intentions, the world with all it's un-Christ-like messages, poor choices, speeding cars, drunk drivers, bullies, planes that crash, the risk of loving someone completely, failure, drugs, alcohol, rock-and-roll (haha)...ultimately I cannot keep sin or the consequences of it (which includes sickness and death) from them... I am not in control...but God is and his plan for Nate and our family included his having allergies and a part of that includes being a support and encouragement to other Moms who are facing this same issue.